Relationships Work: KiCK’N Relationship Tips
With Lori and Bob Hollander
Secrets to Creating Extraordinary Relationships
For love to be sustained over a lifetime, we must be able to forgive.
How to Forgive in Relationships
[quote]If you are going to pursue revenge, you might as well dig two graves.
~ Chinese proverb[/quote]
Forgiveness matters. For love to be sustained over a lifetime, we must be able to forgive.
Inevitably in any relationship, there will be times where your partner will say or do something hurtful. Feelings of pain, sadness, anger, rejection and betrayal may arise. It’s common to feel overwhelmed by our responses and replay the incident over and over in our minds. The feelings intensify. The longer the situation goes unresolved the deeper the pain will be; and the more difficult it will be to forgive.
Holding on to hurt and anger has been shown to lead to depression and anxiety, feeling consumed by unhappiness, health problems and substance abuse. It also undermines trust and intimacy in a relationship.
We believe the best way to handle hurts is to take a cooling off period and then come back to each other as soon as possible to resolve the issue.